You may have read about the man, a construction worker who took a sandwich out of his lunch bag, looked at it and threw it on the ground, yelling, "Baloney again! I hate baloney." A coworker said, "If you hate baloney so much, just ask your wife to make you something else." The man replied, "That's the problem. My wife didn't make the sandwich. I did."
Whether this story is true or not, doesn't really matter. It's a great parable.
As Michael Josephson in Character Counts said, "Lots of people continually make their own baloney sandwiches and then act as victims when it's time to eat them. It's like the man who killed his parents and had the audacity to demand mercy because he was an orphan."
Or like the overweight man who kept eating hamburgers and blamed and wanted to sue MacDonald's, and three other hamburger chains for contributing to his obesity. And like the lady who sued a store because she fell over an unruly child and hurt herself—and the unruly kid in question was her own child! The tragedy was she won the case and was awarded something like $700,000! We've gone sue crazy in this part of the world where I live and much, if not most, of it is because of gross irresponsibility and pure greed—wanting the rewards of hard work at someone else's expense.
I realize it can be extremely difficult (and sometimes impossible) in tough economical times to get work, but if work—any kind of work—is available and I don't want to work, nobody, including the government, is responsible for paying me or feeding me … neither are my parents…nor is society. As Paul implied, if I CAN get any kind of a job but don't want to work or do so-called menial work, then I don't deserve to eat. Let me add, I've done some pretty menial work in my time—working as many as three jobs at once in the summer break and part-time through the school year to put myself through college. Years later, I'm still working a second part-time job to supplement my ministry income.
Suggested prayer: "Dear God, if in any way I'm acting irresponsibly and trying to get others to do for me what I can and need to do for myself, help me to confess up and accept personal responsibility. And if I'm supporting an irresponsible child or person, help me to wake up and motivate him/her to grow up. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully, in Jesus' name, amen."